A Memorial Mother’s Day

Mom and Frankie, Christmas 2011

Rainfall. Temperatures plummet below fifty degrees F, from almost seventy yesterday. Every so often, leaves rustle and the wind chimes sound. We recover from hosting thirty of our family for Frankie’s confirmation barbeque. A quiet day resting at home is the Mother’s Day present Mira wants most this year.

wet fire pit

the last ambers

extinguished

A bittersweet Mother’s Day this year. I’m more than happy to relax at home, too. But today marks the third anniversary of my mother’s death. Considering she passed four days after Mother’s day in 2016, it was only a matter of time before this happened.

daffodil petals

a shadow across

her engraved name

The rain falls harder now. I feel the dull ache of loss stir. Grief waxes and wanes, most days. But the loss, now, is a scar that mildly throbs. Many people say it gets better with time, but they are wrong. I adapt, surfing each wave of sorrow as it comes, with a dread proficiency that comes with practice.

This bittersweet Mother’s Day is just another such opportunity.

raindrops

clinging to their stems

rhododendrons

for Poets United’s Poetry Pantry #479

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23 responses to “A Memorial Mother’s Day”

  1. Jane Dougherty Avatar

    It gets different with time, that’s all.

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    1. Frank J. Tassone Avatar

      Or we get different over time.

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      1. Jane Dougherty Avatar

        We understand what we’ve lost.

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  2. Sherry Blue Sky Avatar

    Oh yes. My mother died around Mother’s Day too. I remembering stepping out of the hospital realizing my mother was gone. It doesnt get better. As you say, we adapt to the loss. That absence becomes a presence that we live with forever. You have written this so beautifully, Frank. And yes, a quiet do-nothing day is the best kind of day!

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    1. Frank J. Tassone Avatar

      Thank you, Sherry! ๐Ÿ˜€

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  3. Bjรถrn Rudberg (brudberg) Avatar

    The way the weather is used to mirror your melancholy makes this even more touching, love the last haiku with the rain on rhododendron… so visual

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    1. Frank J. Tassone Avatar

      Thanks, Bjorn! My office has a bay window. I looked outside and saw the drops clinging to the rhododendron. I knew it had to be immortalized in haiku. ๐Ÿ˜‰

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  4. ZQ Avatar

    Beautiful.

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    1. Frank J. Tassone Avatar

      Thank you! ๐Ÿ™‚

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  5. Mr. Walker Avatar

    A lovely tribute to your mother and your love for her.

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    1. Frank J. Tassone Avatar

      Thank you! ๐Ÿ™‚

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  6. Wendy Bourke Avatar
    Wendy Bourke

    Lovely! I’m not sure if this is pathetic fallacy (in terms of the definition of that literary device), but the way nature mirrors mood and feeling and atmosphere (and the way that you have woven that through your lines) in this poignant poetic work is so compelling. Beautifully constructed. This is really a stunning piece of writing.

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    1. Frank J. Tassone Avatar

      Thank you, Wendy! I appreciate it! ๐Ÿ™‚

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  7. awisewomansjourney Avatar

    This is such a beautiful memorial Frank! โค

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    1. Frank J. Tassone Avatar

      Thank you, Deborah! ๐Ÿ™‚

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  8. robtkistner Avatar

    Feel sad for you Frank.

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    1. Frank J. Tassone Avatar

      Thanks, Rob! Iโ€™m hanging five on this wave. ๐Ÿ˜‰

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  9. Charmed Chaos Avatar

    It doesn’t get any easier. It’s been 8 years since my mom passed on. You learn to embrace the grief when it comes, honor it, and let it flow through you.

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  10. sanaarizvi Avatar
    sanaarizvi

    I am so sorry for your loss ๐Ÿ˜ฆ

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    1. Frank J. Tassone Avatar

      Thank you, Sanaa.

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  11. Magaly Guerrero Avatar

    The contrast between bright daffodils and shadows obscuring her name made me sigh… She will be forever be bright in your memory and heart, but the pain always dampen things a bit, too.

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    1. Frank J. Tassone Avatar

      So true. Thanks, Magaly! ๐Ÿ˜€

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